|Yes, alcohol can help cause a significant number
of Acquired Brain Injuries, but it's the person who uses it, not the store. The store, brand new this year, is fully accessible, a far cry from the previous location.
|The door opens, widely, through which I'm able to drive my scooter straight in.|
I’ve heard it, pretty much my whole life (pre-crash included), that actions speak louder than words, but since the crash, and being visibly disabled, it’s crystal clear. People, no matter who, pretty much will always say that they’ll help someone who needs it, but being asked to is easy. The true heroes are the people who see what they can do to help, and offer. They don’t assume that what they can do is needed, so they usually ask. The true heroes know that simply doing something for someone, without being asked, is usually somewhat insulting.
I used to think that I show that I’m useless, and didn’t correct them when they simply assumed that, which was bad. I’m trying to adjust my thinking to that they simply don’t know, and are trying their best. I honestly don’t know what’s the best way to tell people that.
On the whole, it’s hard to say “what’s right”, because how it’s received is like the injury itself, in that it’s unique to the individual. I’ve basically gotten used to accepting the fact that people want to help, so if they want to do something that I know I can do myself, I don’t do anything, and say thank you. If I objected, or acted badly, then that person might change from wanting to help, to someone who’d walk on by, thinking that they’d be annoyed.
Guess who was invited to be at the induction ceremony?
ME! Yes, that’s right, me.
|A little while ago I realized that brooding over the past, that led to self-hatred, and not only was it hurtful, but I was a brutal hypocrite. I’d tell everyone who’d suffered an injury that all’s well, and so forth, but my brutal self-negativity was that I told myself all sort of bad things. It was on a trip to Florida that the realization hit, through the help of a 7-year old girl. She had no idea, and I didn’t ask, but it was how she was with me that made me realize how thins are. She didn’t know me before, because the crash happened when she was -3. I don’t remember what I’d said, but I remember the look in her eyes when I'd offered a ride on my scooter with me (pure joy), and how she made me feel. I won’t say it, because referring to myself as awesome would be self-centered, and egotistical. However, thinking it isn’t.
When I got back from that trip, the realization wasn’t short, because of what I’d put into motion. I’d contacted my cousin, who works for a big law firm (Kelly/Santini), who’d offered to be the go-between to her firm’s pro bono division. She did, and it was put into motion. The papers are being drawn up, it’ll take about a year I think, but when it’s up I’ll lead a charity. I’ve been working to think of its name, because “Brain Injury Awareness” is too plain, boring, or matter-of-fact that it might not get approved. My latest idea is “Brain Bang Aware”. I’m not sure if that’ll be it, but it has potential. It’s length is good for Instagram, Twitter, and its own domain.
|I've been invited to NHL's 2019 induction ceremony into the hall of fame! I'm going to take advantage of it by recording my exchanges with pro hockey players, about the invisibility-element of the injury, and hear their feedback on if they felt it.|
It will be aligned with how the charity will evolve. It's not set yet, but what I'm envisioning is a "push technology" centre, where it'll broadcast ideas/concepts about ABI's. At the interviews what I'll try to do is show that what's seen is quite often thought of as how a person is.
For example, I know people who appear to be unaffected, at all. When they make a mistake because of their injury, while it's not their fault, because they didn't mean to, but to everyone, they did it on-purpose.
Mats Sundin, Niklas Lidstrom, Guy Carbonneau, Dino Ciccarelli, Jayna Hefford, Igor Larionov, Larry Murphy, Hayley Wickenheiser, Sergei Zubov, Nik Antropov, Wendel Clark, Al Iafrate, Tomas Kaberle, Joe Kocur, Brian McCabe, Fredrik Modin, Brenden Morrow, Wade Redden, Stephane Richer, Jeremy Roenick, Ryan Smyth, Darryl Sydor, Steve Thomas, Marty Turco.
|I mean, holy cow. Take a read of the players who'll be participating. Because of a whole host of post-recording editing requirements, they're not ready to be broadcast yet, but when they are, you'll see awesomeness!|
This entry doesn’t immediately seem to fit into this blog, because what it’s about doesn’t immediately fit with what this story is about. But, it is. Why? Because what I’m about is the minimizing the differences between myself, and someone who hasn’t suffered an injury that’s rendered them unable to drive. Put it this way, with what Elon is thinking, while the notion of my being able get into a Tesla is highly-unlikely (simply because of cost), the concept of taking one alone is impossible. However, with what he’s proposing, not only will riding in one be possible, but doing so alone.
Teslas, are cooler than pretty much anything, of that there’s no doubt, but they’re not cheap! But, as with everything, while the price starts high, as skills/production/everything else improves, the cost to make will reduce.
Visionaries don’t see the cost of making things, nor do they worry about “little things” that would get in the way, because all they see is the result.
Everything that’s designed follows a 3-step process of questions, which is “what do we need?”, followed by “how do we do it”. At the centre is why it’s being thought of. Nearly every invention follows the process, starting at the outside, and working in. Steve Jobs, who invented the Mac computers, followed it, but reversed the order. He thought of why what he’s inventing is needed. He solved it, and worked out.
Elon Musk is a visionary, of that there’s no doubt, because he’s making going to space more of a common-thing, and now he’s announced that he’ll be into making self-driving taxis.
I’m looking at my computer, the where I store my info for backup, and this will show more of what I just said.
Everything that’s somewhat standard now was “holy cow, that’s awesome!!” when it was first launched, and cost a fortune. In a long time, cars like this will likely simply be “just a car”, and the fact that it’s driverless, and a taxi, won’t be anything weird.
A while ago, like 4 or 5 years, I simply couldn’t have a conversation at a dinner party with someone, because of the ambient noise, other people talking, and everything else that would distract me made it impossible. It was impossible because I couldn’t focus on what they were saying, such that while I heard the noise they were making, I simply couldn’t “assemble” it into a full-thought. However, how it made me feel made me determined to overcome. I know that “they” say that that’s something that’s either impossible, or too difficult to want to start.
I started with Soldiers of Fitness ten years ago, it ingrained in me the notion that quitting isn’t an option, and that I’m to go all the way, and then some. The concept of not succeeding wasn’t something that I thought possible, and I was determined to succeed. I didn’t get any pro-help, because I figured that they’d simply tell me that it’s impossible, and I shouldn’t even try.
As I’m typing this, I’m listening to the radio in my left ear. Not simply music, but hosted (KISS FM), so the hosts would come on, tell stories, and “talk” to me.
I heard from someone that they like my blog, but because she most-often reads blogs when driving, she can’t read mine when she’d like to. She made a suggestion, to have it be able to be read (aloud), and gave me a link to somewhere that would do it!
I did it!
Now it’s even more of what it’s about – accessibility! It can be “read”, by clicking this image at every entry!
Brain injuries only exist in only two ways: Penetrating, or closed. Basically, and it’s self-explanatory, either something goes through your skin and skull, or your brain is shaken, and hits your skull.
While penetrating is exciting-sounding, such as getting shot, having a harpoon go in, or something equally exotic, they’re few and far between. The closed injuries are more complicated, and far more prevalent. There’s a type of injury that’s a gazillion times more prevalent than the others, so I’ll simply mention them: epidural hematomas, subdural hematomas, and cerebral aneurysm.
Concussions are so common, and misunderstood, such that President Trump said ‘Uh oh, got a little ding on the head?’when asked about concussions in football.
Yeah, that’s real tough talk. For years, researchers have worked to show the serious consequences of those “dings” Trump dismisses (with his signature bullying sarcasm). “Concussion. Oh, oh!” — the science has found that the cumulative effects of all those dings can be deadly. In March, the NFL acknowledged a link between playing football and chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE), a degenerative brain disease. CTE symptoms include depression, memory loss and aggressive behaviour: several NFL players who committed suicide,
C’mon Trump, get serious. You’re in charge of the USA, and dismissing such a serious thing as a concussion as “a ding on the head” is an error, of galactic proportions.
What I’m asking for is your help. I’ve created these questions, about you, and I’d appreciate your answers!
Writing the blog is working in helping me to feel better about myself. However, when reading it, I realized that regardless of the value of what I’m writing, it’s only based on me, and by that, it’s entirely one-sided!
Yes, being disabled can be a challenge. While it started as something awful, so bad that I actually hated myself for a little while, but I don’t know what it was, but I changed my view. I was looking at the “old me”, and the fact that the “new me” wasn’t it, I felt a failure. The week before the crash, I did a triathlon. The month before, I biked to Kingston in The Rideau Lakes. I was a member of Soldiers of Fitness, a military-style boot camp for fitness, and because of it, I was able to. I completed 5 additional triathlons, and ran 4 or 5 half-marathons. I looked at what I became, comparing it to the former me, and hated it. Then, Never Stop was born.
I’ve slipped, more than once, in thinking bad things about myself, to the point where I downright hated myself. However, a friend said that when I get that way, that I’m effectively a hypocrite, by not practicing what I preach. But, the feelings of wanting (no, needing) succeed helped me to see the light. I didn’t know it at the time that I thought it, but in hindsight, that’s the power of my inside-drive. I still fight the inside-voice, often, that tells me that I’m either mostly useless, or something like that. It’s hard to fight, because it not only says it, but I feel it.
However, being visibly-disabled is definitely superior to invisible. A friend of mine, who suffered an injury, is able to qualify for a parking pass. He might forget where he’d parked his car, but he’d never use one alone, under any circumstances, because his injury is completely invisible. When I’m shopping, at any time, I’m offered help. If something is high up, and I’m looking at it, within a matter of seconds someone offers.
I’ve given myself a goal, and that’s to write in here every month, twice. I’m going to try to publish on the 1st and the 15th of the month, because I’ll have been working on it (likely a lot, before), and all that’s needed is to click “go”.
However, until I get going, I honestly don’t know what people would want to read. Then again, I’ve heard that it’s not what people would want read that I should write, but what I want to say. Then, if people choose to read, it’s great, and if they don’t, it’s their loss.
However, I’m still faced with the challenge, because I’ve always been someone who had too much to say, but when faced with the need to think of something to type, I simply can’t!
But, I’ll write something, about brain injury in some way, to see if that gets the brain-juices flowing.
I’m posting this image, saying to fuel your passion, and with what you’ll read here, you’ll soon understand that this is mine. However, while what I’ll think of is what I think people would want hear, I’m not sure! Every post has a way for you to submit a response, and I’m asking you to!